Motivational Monday: Be Kind… Always

Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.

Be kind.

Always.

 

For some, being kind to others may be easier said than done. I always struggle with the balance of being kind to someone and not allowing myself to be taken advantage of.

 

But I have learned, if I am unsure of which result will prevail, just be kind. I was recently reminded why being kind is important for others as well as yourself.

 

I recently ran into an old friend of mine, who I hadn’t seen for awhile. Our last encounter was somewhat catty and I remembered why we hadn’t spoken for a while.

 

I had to admit, I was guilty of being a jerk in my primitive years. You make mistakes as you're growing up, you learn from them, and you make better decisions in your future. This is the act of maturing. In my current state, I hope I have matured past the catty stages I once dwelled in.

From the movie, "Mean Girls". 

From the movie, "Mean Girls". 

 

 I was so excited to see my old friend! I felt we had put the past behind us, and we were ready to hug each other and reminisce on good memories. However, for my “friend,” it was a different feeling. Our last encounter had given her a bad taste in her mouth about me. She no longer saw me as someone with fond memories, but someone she really didn’t care to see.

 

It was sad. I couldn’t blame her, but I certainly didn’t want this to be the memory of me that stuck. After all, I had evolved! I approached her kindly, and brought up the past as something silly. I wanted to remind her of all the good times we had, and that I was sorry for any dumb mistakes of my past. But for her, it seemed as if she no longer trusted me.

 

I felt disappointed that someone could see me in this light and hold me to my past. But that’s life for you. You win some and you lose some.

 

I use to play the, “if you're mean to me, I will be mean to you” game, but now I see that as a vicious cycle. Taking responsibility of your actions and not allowing others to have emotional control over you takes time and discipline.

 

In life, you will never please everyone all the time. You may be kind and people will still be rude to you, but you must be kind anyway, because who you are should never be altered or affected by who anyone else is to you. Be consistent with yourself. You are the one who has to sleep with yourself at night and look at yourself in the mirror during the day. Will you reflect what you hope to see in others?

 

So I want to leave you with this quote from a woman who was recognized and remembered for her acts of kindness and selflessness:

People are often unreasonable, and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives.

Be kind anyway.

If you are honest, people may cheat you.

Be honest anyway.

The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.

Give your best anyway.

For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.
— Mother Teresa